The search for security is the most insecure thing you can do.

Sophia Watts Insecurity Reflection

Alan Watts argued that the entire pursuit of psychological security is self-defeating — life is a process, not a fixed thing, and trying to hold it still is like trying to grip water. The wisdom he pointed to isn't finding a way to finally feel secure; it's realizing that insecurity is just what it feels like to be alive, and stopping the fight against it. Writing down what you're currently trying to secure — and what happens if you stop — is a private way to test the idea.